Lucy was heartbroken. Her boyfriend, a man whom she had loved and adored, had broken up with her only one month earlier and was now dating another girl.
As she scrolled through his Instagram feed, she couldn’t get past his smiling face with a girl she did not know. They looked so happy, so in love, and Lucy felt the pangs of jealousy and heartbreak.
Lucy continued to scroll further down his account, looking for any hope that he still had feelings for her, but all their photos and all their memories had been erased from his phone. It was as if she did not even exist.
As the tears rolled down her face, Lucy felt so rejected and so unloved. She questioned what she had done wrong in the relationship and wonder what she could have done better. She felt so unworthy and started to believe that she would never find love again. Never again would she experience the happiness and laughter of being loved.
So began Lucy’s story of “Nobody will ever love me.”
For most people, this is how their first high school romance story reads. It’s a time when they enter the game of finding love, approval, and validation from someone they have strong feelings for.
But for so many of us, it is sad, heartbreaking, and even scary when the relationship does not work out. It hurts when you are the one left rejected and alone whilst the other person has moved on.
It is easy to succumb to feelings of unworthiness, of not being good enough, of feeling unloved and unloveable.
The story of “Nobody will love me” has tremendous power because it can force you to change who you are. It can make you give up your original, authentic self and adopt a false facade so that others will accept and love you.
To stop this from happening, you need to extend your scope of vision and see the bigger picture. You need to love yourself first and know that you are loveable just the way you are—your real self.
So this week’s challenge is to look at areas of your life that you have changed or given up for the love of another person.
It could be that you don’t play your music anymore, or you don’t eat certain foods, or don’t go out with your friends. Whatever it is, make a conscious effort and decision to do that thing this week.
Remember, being loveable starts with loving yourself—all of yourself—first. For you are worthy and deserving of being loved just the way you are!
Storyteller
Deborah Ruth
