Chloe woke up feeling miserable and groaned as she got out of bed to get ready to go to work.
She already knew she was going to struggle today. She always found February 14, Valentine’s Day challenging, especially at work with her colleagues.
She was expected to smile and fawn over other’s delivered flowers, cute teddy bears, and undying declarations of love while she received nothing.
What made the day even more painful was that Chloe had to pretend that she was happy for all her colleagues who had found someone to love them whilst feeling so downhearted and lonely because she had no one.
Chloe could not let go of the feeling and story that she had missed out and “could not find love.”
Finding and falling in love with someone can be a wonderful and magical experience. It is not surprising that there are so many songs, poems, and books dedicated to the trill of falling and being in love.
In fact, it seems like the entire world resolves around the idea of falling in love. We are conditioned to believe that our aim in life should be to partner off and settle down. And many of us are willing to live our lives searching and waiting for that “special” person to come along.
However, finding love usually happens when we focus on our own pursuits as it not only makes us better people but also better potential partners.
It allows our personality and confidence to shine through which is attractive to others.
When we are desperately seeking love, not only do we appear needy, we also start to evaluate every person we encounter as the “one”. This can come across as desperate and very unattractive.
So this week’s challenge is to look at your life and assess whether it is meaningful to you. To turn your focus inward, to know who you are, to accept yourself and see if you are following your own life path.
When you are doing what is right for you, you will be in places, jobs, and meet people who are aligned more with your life path. You will become more attractive because you will become more real, authentic, passionate and happy.
So just be your true self. Live your life fully. Learn to accept and love yourself. Know you are whole and do not need a relationship to complete you.
Just remain open to the possibility, for you do not know when it will happen… until it does.
Forever creating,
Deborah Ruth
