Another break up. Another relationship gone wrong. Emily could not believe how she had fallen for the wrong guy again.
She had vowed to herself that she was going to go for the nice and honest guy who was emotionally available. This is exactly what she thought Ben was… until she found out that he wasn’t there for her.
After six months of dating, Emily was thrilled that they had so much in common, however, something seemed off.
Ben had always shied away from emotional conversations and was never interested in talking to her about her goals. In fact, he never asked, and it felt as if Emily was in a one-sided relationship.
Now it was over, and Emily was angry with herself for ignoring the red flags and setting herself up for another failing relationship. She was angry that she had invested so much time, money, and her mind, body, and soul into this relationship.
All Emily could think about was the question: “Why do I always romantically attract the wrong person?”
And the story of “I attract the wrong type of person” became entrenched in Emily’s core beliefs.
Sometimes, it can feel like we are continually attracting romantic partners who are not good for us. They may be unavailable, narcissistic, judgmental, or any other undesirable personality type.
However, there are many reasons why we fall for the wrong person which includes pretending to be someone we are not or building a fantasy about the other person before we have even meet them, or perhaps, we don’t believe we deserve love, to name a few.
Yet, one of the most common reasons for attracting the wrong type may be a simple lack of knowing what we truly want and what is important to us.
So, for this week’s challenge ask yourself the following questions so that you can get a very clear picture on what you want, to start attracting the right person.
Do you want someone who is ambitious and driven? Someone who will support your career goals? Someone who will make a great parent? Or someone with a great sense of humour that makes you laugh?
Think about how you want to be treated and what the relationship looks like.
If you are not clear on the type of person you want and the qualities you desire, then you will continue to attract the wrong person.
The decision about whom you want to be with and share your life experiences with is ultimately yours. So, get to know who you are and what kind of person is right for you.
This may require you to do some soul-searching to find your inner voice, to listen to your intuition, and to challenge some of your core beliefs.
Start to move towards a more fulfilling and joyful relationship by not buying into the story that “opposites attract” when reality says otherwise.
Know and become the person you want to attract.
Forever Creating
Deborah Ruth
